Hey y’all! Welcome back to another one of my Relationship Sunday’s series. Personally, I have always been an utterly curious person. In fact, I like to joke that I have the mind and energy of a toddler, which I think my friends who know me in real life can probably attest to – LOL! Many times, my mind of a five year old wonders about who my future spouse will be, and my Mom has too: it’s so sweet that she does! Although I try not to place too much emphasis on that person in terms of certain features, I strive to place my focus on who they will be and the traits that I desire them to have. That being said, I am going to share some of those traits.
Traits that I Look for in my Future Spouse
- Compassion – One of the biggest things that my family told me is to watch how the person that you’re dating and could eventually marry treats those working in customer service. If they treat them with kindness and compassion, then they will with no doubt be the same way with you too. I want to find somebody who has compassion not only for themselves, but for others too. I have always seen how somebody treats others as an indicator of how they will eventually treat me.
- Adventure – Ever since I was little, I have always been a go-getter and somebody who was ALWAYS down for a good time, whatever it may be. My future spouse should have that same energy in them, too, and want to join me on my adventures as well. I want to share a life with somebody who desires adventure and is willing to put on their hiking boots to go for a hike, flip flops to go to the beach, and get out their camera for many pictures along the way! Whether near or far, I am all about bringing together some great experiences and even greater memories from those experiences.
- A desire to travel – This one goes off of the last one a bit but is more specific. If you know me, then you know that I LOVE LOVE LOVE to travel! I, indeed, have my own hashtag – #KatiesConfettiAdventures – just dedicated to my travels. I have been fortunate enough to travel to 13 different countries and 25 different states in my lifetime, and crazy enough, I want to continue to add to my running list of places visited with my future spouse. I’m SUCH A PLANNER, and I have dreamed of taking super fun couple’s trips with my future spouse, especially when we need time to get away from our potential future children. Some of the places that pop up in my head at the top of the list include – Paris, France; New York, New York; Venice, Italy; the Greek Islands; and Hawaii. Wherever we go, I want to make memories with my future spouse and look back many decades later at all the memories we made both near and far and will continue to for the decades to come that we have together.
- A willingness to serve – Going off of being a compassionate person, I desire for my future spouse to have a willingness to serve others. Whether it be through involvement in a club/organization, sports team, charity, work, or all of the above, taking the time to leave a lasting impact on others is an admirable trait. I have always served others, especially at my college as a student leader and I desire for my future spouse to have that same wavelength going for them too.
- Christian faith – Although I am accepting of other religions and LOVE learning about them and those who practice them, I ideally would like to marry somebody who is also a Christian. My Christian faith has always been an impactful part of my life. In fact, I went on 3 mission trips in high school with my local church and did some service on other capacities with my church, too. My faith in God has shaped me into the woman that I am today, and I pray that my future spouse’s faith in God has shaped them into the person that they are today and will become.
- Acceptance – This is a HUGE one! Simply being accepting of other people, regardless of who they are is something that I have always strived to do. Regardless of somebody’s race, gender, sexuality, gender identification, political views, religion, ethnicity, abilities, and more, I have always viewed acceptance of others as one of my core values. For me, having a future spouse who shares those similar views of acceptance and striving to understand others’ perspectives will only strengthen our bond.
- Driven – Whatever my future spouse may be passionate about, I surely am excited to see their drive for it and watch them excel in it. I have always found it so admiring to watch someone’s passions be ignited. It is a beautiful thing! Having a future spouse who has a similar drive to me, but most likely in different areas of focus (aka not Data Analytics) will allow me to not only broaden my horizons, but watch them excel in the best way possible.
- Humor – Personally, I like to think of myself as a funny person – HAHA! But, I also hope that my future spouse is someone that I find to be a funny person and vice versa. My Aunt Sherri always finds a way to bring some laughs into our lives, whether we’re in a situation where we’re all thriving or a situation where it is a bit trying. Aunt Sherri ALWAYS knows how to make us all laugh, and I want to channel my inner Aunt Sherri with my future spouse as well.
- More laid back than me – For those who know me in real life, you will know that I am an Enneagram Type 3 who is a non-stop working person and a major major major planner. I am always productive and I am always probably stressing about something – yes, I will be the first to admit it. Though I have worked on taking a step back from being productive 24/7, I do know that I hope my future spouse is a bit more laid back and less of a planner than I am. I hope that they can add a bit of spontaneously fun times into the mix!
- Physical attraction – This is most definitely the least important item on this list for me. Inner character is always much more beautiful than however someone appears to look on the outside. However, this is still something that I need to mention. While we like to say that we will fall for someone based off of their personality only, there still needs to be some physical attraction of sorts added into it all – the sparks seem to really fly with it added into the mix. Physical looks may fade away as the years progress, but the sparks will still fly! At the same time, I have found that someone who has a strong moral character – including compassion, adventure, a desire to travel, a willingness to serve, Christian faith, acceptance, a drive, humor, and a more laid back nature than my own – makes someone ALL that more attractive!
Everyone’s personal desires for their future spouse are different. Above all else, it is important to remember that NOBODY is perfect, and neither will your future spouse be. But, we should look to admire others’ imperfections as they can do the same for us too. If you so desire, comment below what trait or traits that you look for in your future spouse!
XOXO – Katie <3